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Originally Posted by dalante  What next? That is the question...  |
One suitable answer would be, change your beliefs. That negative self-talk sprouts from your beliefs. Here, I go back to the notion of not keeping 100% of your agreements with yourself. It is possible that you have learned from yourself that you will not finish what it is that you've started, and that is one source of the doubt. Frankly, only you can say what these beliefs are, as you're the one experiencing them.
The self-talk probably also stems from a whole host of other beliefs about yourself. Those beliefs will likely be stored subconsciously, so you may not even be aware of them. And, if you are aware of them, they might not even make sense.
Up until early in 2006, I enjoyed a belief that I can trace back to a single event in grade 7 that sounded like, "I am fundamentally unattractive to women." So, when I was in relationships (or even not in relationships) I made relationship choices that were based upon this as one of the founding principles of relationships. Yeah, that didn't work out so well.
Now, thing was, I didn't even really know this belief was there. Kind of. But that's another theory. I can tell you this, though--it made no sense at all to my rational, adult mind. Chances are, you will not be thoroughly familiar with what those limiting beliefs are, and even if you did, you might feel kind of embarrassed by them, because they won't make much sense to an adult. They're very often based upon a kid's view of the world.
Now, awareness of what those beliefs are is only the first step in this equation. With that awareness comes the power of choice. You can choose a different experience of yourself in the future. But, what you'll need to do to achieve that is replace the belief(s) that you have with new ones that get you the results that you want (in this case, feeling confident).
For thoughts on changing beliefs, I refer you to this post on this forum:
How to change beliefs
Hope that helps!