I would say you need to clarify what is talked about in the discussion, and continue to ask clarifying questions throughout the conversation so that you are sure you understand what she is saying. For most men when it comes to conversation and problem solving we want to cut to the chase and get to the solution as quickly as possible. For most women that is the complete opposite of how they problem solve- they're wired for communication and like to get all of their issues, worries, pluses and minuses out on the table and need us to clarify, validate and allow them the opportunity to talk the issue out- be it 1/2 hour or many hours.
Listening becomes much more important to a woman than problem solving.
Matt
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