Hi straysweeper,
I've felt like that a lot too, but I don't feel that way any more, and I'll tell you why.
I learned that emotions are not caused by
events. They are caused by your thoughts about events. Your emotions are just your body's reaction to your thoughts, and they cause more thoughts and more emotions, with a terrible snowball effect that can leave you feeling just awful. Those girls didn't cause your unpleasant emotions. It was your doubtful and self-defeating thinking that caused them.
Just seeing a beautiful woman did not upset you. It was your doubtful and disdainful thoughts about YOU that upset you.
When you are self-conscious and embarrassed for who you are, you will attract all kinds of events and reactions that will reinforce your negative feelings about yourself.
How attractive people are has a lot more to do with how those people carry themselves than with what they look like.
Look at Tony Soporno. He's overweight and balding, yet people are attracted to him because he loves himself and other people, and it shows. Self-love is the most attractive quality a person can have.
I know you can't just sit down and decide to start loving yourself, it doesn't work like that. You need to love yourself with your
actions. I think
this article could open things up for you.
You are not inadequate, but your way of treating yourself might be. Once you begin to act out of love for yourself, you will carry yourself with more pride and resilience, and that is just irresistible to people.
