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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  Wow! 
If I had a boyfriend, and this boyfriend wanted to decide alone about who lives in our house, treated me as if I were a kid, and acted as if he knew what's "best" better than I do - the boyfriend would go.
Besides, it's not his house, it's their house. |
But, this is exactly what SHE did to HIM by unilaterally making the decision repeatedly to bring another new pet into the home over and over again. You don't see that? And, then disregarding his requests to change some things about how the pets behave in the home is again, HER decision alone. They are not in mutual agreement about the pets' behavior. She's acting as if SHE knows what's "best" better than he - only they BOTH live there and maintain the home.
OP: I think this is a problem. I don't think you should be criticized for strongly disliking this issue and I don't think that it's wrong for you to admit that you do not feel "at home" in your own home anymore. In my opinion, it's bad enough that your mate made significant decisions unilaterally that affect the both of you AND your property....but that she is entirely unwilling to work with you to address some of your concerns about how the pets are maintained and how they behave...that's unacceptable, IMO. Not that you can force her to change, but you certainly shouldn't be made to feel castigated for being uneasy with it all.