“A friend is one before whom I may think aloud.“
Ralph Waldo Emerson said that and he was pretty smart!
Working in a clothes shop must have sucked! I suppose there are nice ways to say a dress looks awful, and "divert and distract" is always a good thing (Maybe this other dress would look nicer?), but you were certainly not employed to be honest were you?
Do you know, you attract people who will reflect back to you what you need to learn. So your faking friends are maybe just demonstrating for you how nasty dishonesty is.
And one of the things about PD is that we tend to lose our old friends (unless they grow as well), because we have less in common with them, and we find newer, more honest loving friends, who are BETTER ABLE to accept us as we really are.
So temporarily you may need to pretend, but you may find you prefer not to, and you will find situations to hang out in where you can truly be yourself.
Joy to you
Hazel
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