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Lychee · 01-16-2007, 02:11 AM

Feelings change over time. The spark does leave after 1.5-2 years. The romantic love passes and it is replaced by compassionate love. That isn't to say romantic love does not exist anymore, but that stage of love has already been passed and now it's at another level. A lot of people don't recognize this and immediately think that the love is gone, but I think it's just love transformed. You have to want to look for reasons to be with the person to keep the relationship afloat. If you've been as you were since the beginning of the relationship (stable in all aspects), then the only thing that must have changed is his perception of you.

I believe that you should never try to change a person. If you are comfortable the way you are, then let it stay at that. However, if you are willing to make a few adjustments, then it might make him see another part of you he finds attractive and make you feel better in the process. Looks are important, but he's been ok with you for this long, why the sudden change of heart? The wrinkles and aged skin will form sooner or later if you do live long enough...

But I wonder - will he stay stuff like this every 2 years or when things/feelings change? Are you sure he isn't just bored with you? Is he mature enough to recognize shifts in relationships and be flexible enough to work with them? Would he make a reliable husband and father?

01-16-2007, 02:11 AM	#7 (permalink)
Lychee Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 538	Feelings change over time. The spark does leave after 1.5-2 years. The romantic love passes and it is replaced by compassionate love. That isn't to say romantic love does not exist anymore, but that stage of love has already been passed and now it's at another level. A lot of people don't recognize this and immediately think that the love is gone, but I think it's just love transformed. You have to want to look for reasons to be with the person to keep the relationship afloat. If you've been as you were since the beginning of the relationship (stable in all aspects), then the only thing that must have changed is his perception of you. I believe that you should never try to change a person. If you are comfortable the way you are, then let it stay at that. However, if you are willing to make a few adjustments, then it might make him see another part of you he finds attractive and make you feel better in the process. Looks are important, but he's been ok with you for this long, why the sudden change of heart? The wrinkles and aged skin will form sooner or later if you do live long enough... But I wonder - will he stay stuff like this every 2 years or when things/feelings change? Are you sure he isn't just bored with you? Is he mature enough to recognize shifts in relationships and be flexible enough to work with them? Would he make a reliable husband and father? Last edited by Lychee; 01-17-2007 at 04:04 AM.