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Originally Posted by Lallymac  One of my daughters friends recently said that I should be concerned as a parent.
They're all happy so why should I? |
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Originally Posted by Lallymac My older three are in their twenties and mature enough to make their own choices. I get quite annoyed when I see parents my age pushing their young adult kids to commit to marriage. Mine have been able to explore themselves in different relationships and talk freely/reflect on, a wide variety of issues. I would rather have them know themselves and make their own choices when The time is right for them. I really like them as people and am proud of who they are.
Lallymac |
You are so completely right, Lally. Don't push your kids to get married before they're ready, and trust that if they're happy and healthy, they're making good decisions for themselves. You obviously raised your kids with the right tools to take care of themselves. Trust YOUR parenting skills. What do your friends know about your family?
There's no mathematical age equation that creates the ideal relationship. And so many young people are pushed into early marriage because of peer pressure by family and friends, which can severely impact their financial well-being. And I'm not just talking about having kids too soon, or having to pay for divorce issues if the marriage doesn't work out. I'm also talking about passing on great job opportunities because you feel that you should stay in the same city as your spouse, when, if they weren't married, they'd feel freer to do a long-distance relationship, or even end the relationship in order to create a secure, independent financial background for themselves.