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Cron · 01-16-2007, 12:19 AM

I was recently talking with a female friend about being turned down for a date 3 times in a row.

We are close friends so she felt safe enough to take a risk and give me some hard, unsolicited advice. Basically, she told me to redo my look with my clothing and hair cut. I think she is right, but her suggestions are just way out of my comfort zone. I will probably let myself get a little bit used to some of the ideas, start off with some of the easier ones, and then work my way up....gradually if I have to.

This may sound silly, but she suggested not parting my hair in the middle anymore. She may be right about it not being attractive, but Dad parts his hair on the side and I would look like Gomer Pyle with hair short enough not to need a part( I wear it fairly short now ) So, first question.......do other people believe that men's haircuts with parts in the middle are definite no-no?

My friend advised me to begin browsing through GQ, cut out looks l like, go to a fancy department store, get something similar, and get it tailored.

I think it would take a major change in attitude just to be at piece with accept the hassle of dropping off, picking up, and paying for dry cleaning every week. I've always had a "what a waste of your life time" attitude about the other suggestions.......making your look and shopping a hobby.

I know that attitude sucks, as I appreciate it when women put effort.....and I know it is effort.....into looking nice. I know it is only fair/necessary to do the same if I want those women to have an open mind towards me.

I guess my question at this point, is there an easier way to upgrade wardrobe/look then doing what women do......exploring looks, going to taylors, shopping etc?

Like I said. I am not flexible now, but I am willing to begin moving myself in that direction. I know having an open mind to suggestions is necessary if you want to solve problems.

01-16-2007, 12:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
Cron Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 420	Makeovers: Advice for guys? I was recently talking with a female friend about being turned down for a date 3 times in a row. We are close friends so she felt safe enough to take a risk and give me some hard, unsolicited advice. Basically, she told me to redo my look with my clothing and hair cut. I think she is right, but her suggestions are just way out of my comfort zone. I will probably let myself get a little bit used to some of the ideas, start off with some of the easier ones, and then work my way up....gradually if I have to. This may sound silly, but she suggested not parting my hair in the middle anymore. She may be right about it not being attractive, but Dad parts his hair on the side and I would look like Gomer Pyle with hair short enough not to need a part( I wear it fairly short now ) So, first question.......do other people believe that men's haircuts with parts in the middle are definite no-no? My friend advised me to begin browsing through GQ, cut out looks l like, go to a fancy department store, get something similar, and get it tailored. I think it would take a major change in attitude just to be at piece with accept the hassle of dropping off, picking up, and paying for dry cleaning every week. I've always had a "what a waste of your life time" attitude about the other suggestions.......making your look and shopping a hobby. I know that attitude sucks, as I appreciate it when women put effort.....and I know it is effort.....into looking nice. I know it is only fair/necessary to do the same if I want those women to have an open mind towards me. I guess my question at this point, is there an easier way to upgrade wardrobe/look then doing what women do......exploring looks, going to taylors, shopping etc? Like I said. I am not flexible now, but I am willing to begin moving myself in that direction. I know having an open mind to suggestions is necessary if you want to solve problems.