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TiffyLove · 03-23-2009, 09:46 AM

I think being aware of it is the first step, even if it is afterwards.

Maybe you need to slow down and bit and be more conscious "in the now".

Work on building integrity to yourself right now. In the long run it will pay off with your partners (business or personal). Example, if you tell yourself you are going to go to bed by 11:00p.m. then go to bed by 11. This will lead to integrity and self trust.

Also in regards to integrity, you can start by questions every single thing you do. Even if only for a day, you question every little step you take with "Am I doing this for the right reasons," or "Is this the right thing to do?" Example when choosing what to eat, when to get out of bed, how long your in the shower, what shampoo to buy, to pick up a pencil or a pen to write with, EVERYTHING, etc. It may sound pointless but if you can really start to expand your mind to look at "the place in which you make decisions from" and if it is serving you or not, you might just be surprised one day when before you go to act or say something in a relationship your minds pops in with "Am I doing this for the right reason or what is the right thing to do here?"

A lot of people may disagree with this exercise because of the argument of right versus wrong and good versus bad is judgment and for some removing judgment is a goal, for myself included. However this is more about making yourself aware of your decision making process and having integrity when doing so. Later you could remove the judgment of right and replace it with "is this aligned with who I am", but as of now I believe it would be more beneficial for you to use the world right because of where you are at. But then that is just my opinion.

Try it for one day and if you could manage that do it for a week, then forget about the exercise all together. It can't hurt. And if you decide to try it, I would love to hear about your experience or if you have any questions.

03-23-2009, 09:46 AM	#7 (permalink)
TiffyLove Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 402	I think being aware of it is the first step, even if it is afterwards. Maybe you need to slow down and bit and be more conscious "in the now". Work on building integrity to yourself right now. In the long run it will pay off with your partners (business or personal). Example, if you tell yourself you are going to go to bed by 11:00p.m. then go to bed by 11. This will lead to integrity and self trust. Also in regards to integrity, you can start by questions every single thing you do. Even if only for a day, you question every little step you take with "Am I doing this for the right reasons," or "Is this the right thing to do?" Example when choosing what to eat, when to get out of bed, how long your in the shower, what shampoo to buy, to pick up a pencil or a pen to write with, EVERYTHING, etc. It may sound pointless but if you can really start to expand your mind to look at "the place in which you make decisions from" and if it is serving you or not, you might just be surprised one day when before you go to act or say something in a relationship your minds pops in with "Am I doing this for the right reason or what is the right thing to do here?" A lot of people may disagree with this exercise because of the argument of right versus wrong and good versus bad is judgment and for some removing judgment is a goal, for myself included. However this is more about making yourself aware of your decision making process and having integrity when doing so. Later you could remove the judgment of right and replace it with "is this aligned with who I am", but as of now I believe it would be more beneficial for you to use the world right because of where you are at. But then that is just my opinion. Try it for one day and if you could manage that do it for a week, then forget about the exercise all together. It can't hurt. And if you decide to try it, I would love to hear about your experience or if you have any questions.