take it easy people...no need to be so radical.
When there is love and respect,pretty much everything can be resolved.
You need to sit down and talk to her,tell her what you feel,and tell her all with details.Maybe she does all that cause she hasnt felt yet,how much all that bothers you.
And if she begins to do the same pattern-considering at a personal attack,well from that part i guess it is her own personal trauma ( and ask her about that also.)Try to digg in and see if sth in the past happened that make her feel so insecure.
what worries me here is IF she does that talk only to run away from the issues,or to try to control you...or manipulate you.
This might sound harsh but it is a probability by what i am seeing.How long do you know each other?Do you consider that you know her very well,really deeply?
For instance,she is a Vet and of course she has to love animals...but it is a disrespect if she keeps bringing pets into your house,without asking your opinion.That is major issue here.
And like others said,i dont think you are the one trying to control here
- she is the one who seems very insecure and most of the times it is this type of person who tries mind games or manipulative behaviour to try to make the partner do what he/she wants.
i cannot judge anyone.
I just think that you can easily resolve all this:serious talk,establishing some limits/bloundaries,telling the Truth to each other and be sincere.
No need to make the animals GO:they can be put in some area where the house dont smell so much and really...higyene is very important and for a Vet she seems a little odd in that area,or at least uncommon
