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nocturne · 03-20-2009, 04:25 AM

[QUOTE=CroMagna;317598]I have three main racial issues I wanted to clear up:

1. Beauty
It just seems like black women are really not beautiful. We're the most prone to getting fat, we're very dark, and our hair is hard. It seems like even if we lose the weight we still don't fit the bill to attract dates.

->>> don't assume that men are not attracted to bigger women as long as they are in good shape. Some men hate skinny women and like bigger women. Some men like darker skin. Some men like black women with the stereotypical booty and an afro. Stop self hating, love yourself, take care of yourself, and demonstrate your personality to these men and you might start to get some dates.

2. Don't feel connected with other blacks, almost actually hate them
I've just heard so much attitude especially from black women. I just feel like I'm being attacked, like they look for easy targets. It just makes the beauty situation worse, because it just makes black women look hideous.

->>>> no asian fortune cookie ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ just the truth: look inside yourself; because so within, as without. You will find that this is actually self hatred. Love yourself and you will start to find other black women that love being black, because you can't relate to these women anymore.

3. Message I get here is cynical and hopeless

It makes me think maybe I'd be better off in Brazil. There's plenty of actual racism, at least the people can come up with examples. But they don't destroy each other and they're optimistic. And most of the black women there keep a great appearance and smile. Then again, it seems drastic and like maybe I should just remain optimistic about assimilation.

---->>> as long as you are personally still stuck on the level of hating yourself, you will attract and maintain relationships with people of a similar attitude. Get rid of these friends, accept the challenge of being a black woman, love yourself, and focus on the good. There is a good and a bad about everything. As long as you always focus on the bad instead of accepting the good and bad, you won't ask the important question:

what is the solution?

03-20-2009, 04:25 AM	#21 (permalink)
nocturne Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 91	[QUOTE=CroMagna;317598]I have three main racial issues I wanted to clear up: 1. Beauty It just seems like black women are really not beautiful. We're the most prone to getting fat, we're very dark, and our hair is hard. It seems like even if we lose the weight we still don't fit the bill to attract dates. ->>> don't assume that men are not attracted to bigger women as long as they are in good shape. Some men hate skinny women and like bigger women. Some men like darker skin. Some men like black women with the stereotypical booty and an afro. Stop self hating, love yourself, take care of yourself, and demonstrate your personality to these men and you might start to get some dates. 2. Don't feel connected with other blacks, almost actually hate them I've just heard so much attitude especially from black women. I just feel like I'm being attacked, like they look for easy targets. It just makes the beauty situation worse, because it just makes black women look hideous. ->>>> no asian fortune cookie ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ just the truth: look inside yourself; because so within, as without. You will find that this is actually self hatred. Love yourself and you will start to find other black women that love being black, because you can't relate to these women anymore. 3. Message I get here is cynical and hopeless It makes me think maybe I'd be better off in Brazil. There's plenty of actual racism, at least the people can come up with examples. But they don't destroy each other and they're optimistic. And most of the black women there keep a great appearance and smile. Then again, it seems drastic and like maybe I should just remain optimistic about assimilation. ---->>> as long as you are personally still stuck on the level of hating yourself, you will attract and maintain relationships with people of a similar attitude. Get rid of these friends, accept the challenge of being a black woman, love yourself, and focus on the good. There is a good and a bad about everything. As long as you always focus on the bad instead of accepting the good and bad, you won't ask the important question: what is the solution? Last edited by nocturne; 03-20-2009 at 04:29 AM.