Originally Posted by Emaaki
Thankyou all very much. i will tell you a bit about what i did, for 3 years i tried to be a very strong person, like "the best"- not the best i could be, but the best...well my image was....what I thought looked really good to others. i was a real fool. i was extremely hard on myself, like i literally tried to acheive a million goals per day because this book deluded me into thinking i could acheive anything.....okay i got where i thought i wanted, but really i lost soo much of myself, and yes today i am very strong and confident, but i hate it also because I lost a really sweet guy, and...all these changes were to please others anyway....well..i am going on a journey, its going to be a long one...reversing what i did, i might be going backwards with some things, but oh well, whatever makes me happy right.
Use what you've learnt and the wisdom you've gained to go back to what's important to you and only reverse those things that are negative. There's no need to revert everything.
The other thing to do is figure out what you've learnt. You've lost and felt trapped, shameful and guilty, but you are still alive and anything can be mended. Just ask yourself what lessons you have learned from this experience.