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boston · 01-15-2007, 02:51 AM

Thanks so much for the replies. I did realize that my problem was externalizing...thats why I purposefully said "external forces." I was externalizing on purpose because, I read in a book by Martin Seligman, that it is good to externalize in response to depression, which I think I was developing. But rationally, I clearly understand that this is not an external problem (or, if it is, the external area isn't one which I can control).

I am trying to work things out with my room mates. I think I have trouble w/ the social life here in general. I have dispersed friends (friends in different groups), and lots of them are like me (they also have friends in different groups). I want some cohesive network, some very close friends. Right now, I just go out with my friends and party. But I want people I can talk to closely. Especially girls, I want more than sex, etc. And I feel like I have so much energy which I just need to channel something NOT RELATED TO MYSELF, that is why I am somewhat weary of PD at times. I need some outside thing I can devote my time to, and I also want to have friends...its hard for me to balance investing time with close friends (and, quite frankly, learning how to become a closer friends--whether through PD, PUA, Robert Greene, etc.) and studying.

Thanks again!

01-15-2007, 02:51 AM	#13 (permalink)
boston Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 10	Thanks so much for the replies. I did realize that my problem was externalizing...thats why I purposefully said "external forces." I was externalizing on purpose because, I read in a book by Martin Seligman, that it is good to externalize in response to depression, which I think I was developing. But rationally, I clearly understand that this is not an external problem (or, if it is, the external area isn't one which I can control). I am trying to work things out with my room mates. I think I have trouble w/ the social life here in general. I have dispersed friends (friends in different groups), and lots of them are like me (they also have friends in different groups). I want some cohesive network, some very close friends. Right now, I just go out with my friends and party. But I want people I can talk to closely. Especially girls, I want more than sex, etc. And I feel like I have so much energy which I just need to channel something NOT RELATED TO MYSELF, that is why I am somewhat weary of PD at times. I need some outside thing I can devote my time to, and I also want to have friends...its hard for me to balance investing time with close friends (and, quite frankly, learning how to become a closer friends--whether through PD, PUA, Robert Greene, etc.) and studying. Thanks again!