[SupersecretIdentity]

I know this won't be what you want to hear, but take it from someone who has been in your shoes before: It's time for some tough love.

I won't try to speculate on the nature of your relationship, for the sake of argument I'll assume that was, disregarding the last week, overall a pretty stable, enjoyable experience. Either way, this is going to be about you.

I know what it's like to chase a girl and try to spend time with her no matter what she is doing. The thing you imagine that would make you happier than anything would be for her to start wanting to spend all sorts of time with you. You probably don't even always like doing whatever she's doing, but either convince yourself you do, or put up with it just so you can spend time with her.

You need your own life

I can't even stress the total impact of this statement. Not only do you need your own friends, own hobbies, own interests, you also need a lot of the personal characteristics that come with it: independence, self-confidence, positivity.

From the little bit that you have revealed, you sound a lot like how I used to be. Sure, I had my own things I enjoyed, but I would drop them to spend time with my GF any time of the day. I would avoid making plans with people in advance just in case the opportunity might come up to hang out with her. This is so incredibly unattractive, and from your/my former perspective, this is a hard concept to grasp.

Consider this thought experiment: You have your own person fan club. They adore you, you can do no wrong no matter how poorly you treat them. They will hang out with you at the drop of a hat, respond to your every beck and call. They ask you what you would like to do for fun. They are effectively robot slaves for you. It might sound awesome at first, but when you get a mental image, they become annoying, lifeless drones that are basically leeching fun and excitement from you. You aren't actually their god, you are their entire sense of entertainment and self worth. You are directly, and unilaterally responsible for their happiness.

Not such a fun picture, is it?

This is exactly what it's like for her. You support her, do anything she wishes, but you aren't really bringing anything into the relationship. You provide a warm body and she is responsible for making sure you enjoy yourself.

There is really much, much more depth to this entire situation, so just try and let these thoughts sink in over time. This is a great time to start journaling and asking yourself the tough questions that no one likes to face. Breaking up was probably the best thing that ever happened to me - it started an unstoppable personal development snowball effect.

In the mean time, here's what you should really be working on:

Find your own interests. Try out things you have never found the time or courage to do. Experiment, if you don't like it, try something else

Learn how to be happy alone. Ask yourself if you would like to hang out with you. If the answer is no, you have work to do. How can you reasonably expect anyone to want to be around/with you, if you wouldn't want to? Once you learn to love yourself, everyone else can come join the party too.

Meet people, make friends. Build your social circle up. Plan something to do every night of the week.

This is a FANTASTIC 30 day challenge: commit to doing something social every day/night for 30 days straight. Here are the rules:

You have to do something each night. Staying in watching TV/playing games doesn't count. As a rule of thumb, it should be something you can proudly tell someone about when they ask what you did last night. If all you did was hang around the house watching TV and you say "nothing", try again.

You have to accept any invitations you get from someone else. If you already have something planned for that time, offer a different time to get together. If it is a one-time activity, invite that person out to do something else.

You have to try to invite people to hang out with you. Instead of calling up your friend and saying "What do you want to do tonight?" call them and say "Hey, would you like to go to XYZ with me?" When you start being the social coordinator, amazing things happen. People start calling you, you meet more friends, and a positive feedback loop begins.

You may be asking yourself, "What is the point in all this stuff? I just want another girlfriend"

If that thought just went through your mind, you know you have work to do. That is a sign that you are more interested in the idea of a relationship than an actual person. This is not a healthy route to go down. Use this time and emotional energy to work on yourself. Build yourself up, and then women will start chasing you