It sounds more like you're upset that there was a "bait and switch" from the way she lived before you moved in, and the addition of so many pets, without much input from you, or honoring of your feelings on this topic.
I'm an animal person myself, but I would consider bringing home new animals to be a joint decision with my domestic partners. No agreement, no pet. This isn't a house plant, it's a living animal that requires care, causes damage (even well-behaved pets!) to the environment, and changes the way that you can approach life, when you must arrange care for pets before leaving on vacation, for example.
At the very least, making it clear that you are not open to having any additional pets of any sort added to the mix would be advisable. Perhaps you can create some pet free zones within the home that you can feel comfortable entertaining in, and escape to when you need a break. We have two indoor dogs, but they don't have the full run of the house, and are further restricted if we have guests that aren't dog fanciers over.
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