Just a little not from somebody who used to be completely insane as well..
(insane meaning, not accepting critic without going completely insane, screaming, getting panic attacks, crying, breaking up even...).
You have to deal with this. One way or the other. She has a problem with her self esteem, otherwise she wouldnīt connect the animals to you loving her.
Suggest therapy. Couples or just for her. Sometimes it is easier to talk to a third person, so you donīt hurt each other so much.
Very important; tell her that you love her, no matter what happens, you want her to be happy and you will NEVER leave her.
But; you also want to feel happy in your house.
Donīt let her blackmail you emotionally into not doing anything.
It is an easy way for her (unconsiously or not) to not deal with her responsabilities.
Donīt let her get away with it. Eventually she will thank you for it, because dealing with it makes her stronger.
Good luck!
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