Hi, I'm the Original Poster of this thread. I wanted to update everyone.
After waiting for him to propose for so long, I decided I did not want to wait any more, so I brought it up in conversation. I said I wanted to be engaged, and would he think about it? And he got a big grin on his face and said, "Yes, well, I've just been having a hard time thinking about a ring because you said you don't really like diamonds."
... and so, we went out shopping, and he bought me a ring today, which was just the kind of grand gesture I have been desiring.
We don't have a date, but I'm not in a hurry for that. We can plan it in a relaxed manner, since we will just have a reception for the public, and that shouldn't be too much trouble since we have friends in the music, flowers, and catering biz. We're truly very happy.
Thanks to everyone who posted and offered advice. You really helped me with those emotions, and I appreciate it.
