[Marcus1968]

My partner is a Vet Nurse and a registered bird carer. All great things and when we met I knew this and that she kept various sick birds at her house. Since then we have moved in together to our house we bought.

My partner allready owned one cat. First thing she did when moving in was she bought a dog. All good, dogs are great. Then she brought home a dog that was getting put down as it was uncontrollable according to its owner. That was ok as it was a nice little dog and we soon had it sorted. Next she brought home two kittens whos mother died. She was to hand rer them then give them to the local pet store, all good to my thinking. When it came time to give them to the store she couldn't part with them. After much debate and her crying and going a bit crazy on me, I gave in and she/we kept the kittens.

We now have 3 x cats and 2 x dogs.

Turns out she has a large white cockatoo that screeches forever whenever it hears her voice as they bond with one person for life. It lived at her parents house, but they told me last week it is coming to live with us once we build the avery, I'm like what avery?..of course the one for the birds..doh! 5 days ago a lady rang and after the call she told me we would have a white cockatoo here for a couple of days till it goes to her parents place to live. Ok I said. 5 days later her mum drops in for a visit and I said why don't you take the cockatoo with you now. She tells me there is no way she's getting another cockatoo and didn't know anything about it. I have yet to ask my partner exactly what is happening with this bird.

We have a large entertaining area approx 10 x 10mtrs with a the bbq built in etc etc attatched to the house. There is as I type this 4 bird cages ( these are 1.5mt high and 1mt wide cages) out there with various birds in it. The droppings go all over the slate tiles and getting them off is a nightmare. I can no longer go out and sit in the chairs without the smell of bird cages and droppings along with the squarking annoying me and ruining the peace of the situation.

As for inside, the cats are not allowed to go outside for fear of them running off according to her. So we have two litter trays in the laundry for them. Our house constantly smells of cat feces and it is very embarrasing. She feeds the cats even at the table and puts food directly onto the table surface where they lick it off. They are allowed to lick the plates after and they freely walk on the table and the kitchen benches. This is after they walk through their litter tray so we have feces and other nasties on our benches probably all the time. The cats are food obsessed as she feeds them bits of whatever she is eating wherever she is eating it.

My friends won't eat at our house as they have seen the cats in action. My parents told me the house smells rather badly..that was embarrassing big time for me.

I have tried on several occasions to discuss this with her but she literally takes it as a personal attack and I really don't know what to do anymore. With this latest cockatoo here and its screeching I am literally feeling sick when I come home from work it has gotten so bad. I feel like I live at my partners zoo and I'm just a visitor with no rights.

Sorry for the essay, but I needed to get this out and hopefully find a solution to a very tricky problem I'm facing.

Marcus.


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