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Originally Posted by dice  So basically what I'm asking is what do you usually get in return after hitting on someone/what was the best thing you got in return? |
I rarely "hit on" people with a purpose in mind, or with a possible future in mind. When I do say something like "wow you're beautiful, you have great eyes, or I like your hair" it is just something in the moment and my filter that labels that as
inappropriate doesn't work so much anymore. It flies out of me before I have a chance to stop it.
And I think because of that - it is received well. Usually I get a 'thank you' back. Sometimes I get a smirk and an energetic 'I don't know what to do'
and I usually will say something like "feel awkward now?" with a smile. And that will break the ice on a little chit chat about how she has such a hard time accepting compliments.
But that's me, an INFJ, I know what's going on in your head all the time. I assume the other guys you meet don't do that, don't feel the communication getting stuck, and help things move again.
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Originally Posted by dice Basically, I just need an alternative to 'bewildered face' and 'icy eyes'  |
Practice receiving the complement, any complements, from anyone. You have to have a little voice in your head that rewords the complement. When you hear "you're very cute", take a moment and receive it as "I'm telling me I'm very cute". (all-is-one and this is closer to reality than seeing the guys and complements as separate from yourself. All the world's a mirror.
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Stay present... if you're mind's going off to 'where will this go?', pull yourself back to here and now. Talk to him from where you are and what you want to do
now. "Thank you. You're cute too. I have an errand to go to. Bye." or "Thanks. You're cute too. What's your name?."