The more we talk about it, the more I realize that it isn't just semantics. There is a big difference between being with someone because you _want_ to, and because you _have_ to. Perhaps this is colored by being poly, as the idea of personal choice is fairly key! Obligation is a poor reason to be partnered to someone.
Being in a relationship by desire, instead of necessity, is a big difference. I am very excited to be in a space where I feel maximally motivated by choice and desire, and minimally motivated by need or fear. Being able to communicate that more effectively with my spouse has helped him feel more excited by that as well.
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