I need to feel wanted, my husband needs to feel needed...
For me it is ok. I donīt need him in the sense that I would die if he would go, but I do "need" him, because I want to.
When he says that he needs me, I translate "I want you" because I know that he is strong enough to live without me.
We could argue days and days about this issue (we are both extremely stuborn) and get into giant fights about it, but it just isnīt worth it for us...
So; Iīll tell him I need him (translating it into wanting in my head), he makes me feel like he wants me and everybody is happy!
One of my only favority dr.Phil quotes regarding relationships: "would you rather be right, or be happy!"
It is good anyway that you can talk to him about and that you are on the same page about this (not about the wanting vs needed, but about what you both want of it in the future).
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