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Old 03-15-2009, 09:45 AM   #1 (permalink)
dice
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Default Being 'hit on' by strangers

What do you do!?

I am completely not used to being looked at/admired/talked to or have guys show any form of interest in me.

When it happens the odd time I instinctively blow them off, and come off as incredibly cold and mean - and I don't mean to at all! I honestly don't know how to react when something like that happens - I tend to assume guys have hidden motives etc. so I get on the defensive side...but it's killing so many opportunities

It's very distressing for me - it's hard for me to be genuine and affectionate around people I like - I accidently give them the cold shoulder to hide my feelings (so I don't get hurt I guess).

So basically what I'm asking is what do you usually get in return after hitting on someone/what was the best thing you got in return?

Basically, I just need an alternative to 'bewildered face' and 'icy eyes'

Care to share experiences?

(The last time for me was last weekend - A guy I was kind of eyeing tapped me on the shoulder and said, upfront 'you're very cute' and I kind of shrugged/nodded/slowly walked away (I wanted to say 'thanks, you too' but couldn't make it come out) and he did a 'pffffsssh'...I'm modest and have a hard time taking compliments seriously.)

PS. I'm an ESFP on the jung personality test. So I find friends easily...I'm just completely baffled by this guy stuff. Fill me in dudes!

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