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Originally Posted by Lychee  So I guess this level of unattachment means also...not caring? I still have this desire to form a connection with people. Are you saying that letting go if this desire to connect with people will paradoxically help me succeed in connecting with people, instead of actively trying to? |
It may appear to others that you don't care, but in fact you can only ever care about and connect to people in any meaningful way when it is on that deeper level. If all your attention is on trying to display an appropriate response to people, whether it is to show that you care or that you accept him or her, you're only connecting with that person on a level of form. When people interact mostly on that level, through heavy and complicated thought forms and labels, it may seem that they are connecting with each other when all they're really doing is putting on a performance between two fictional personalities.
And even if some people may interpret your detachment as offensive, insensitive or whatever, most people will sense that deeper connection and find themselves becoming more peaceful because of it, instead of wanting to engage in conflict. As you keep practicing this, you'll see that not only will you attract quieter responses from people, but you'll start to attract quieter people as well. It is almost an act of inviting people to join you at that higher/deeper level, which they can then either refuse or accept.
So it's important to remember that refusing to engage people on the level of ego is actually an act of kindness, even though it may seem uncaring or dismissive on the surface.
Traffic: Yeah, I've read and listened to Tolle's teaching quite a bit
