Poly isn't any higher consciousness than monogamy that is a decision. There are many different ways to nourish yourself, to create and grow, with and without others.
Many cultures have a place for those who stay apart, contemplate spirituality, and create outside of the normal flow of daily life. It's easier to find time to write a novel when you don't have anything else terribly pressing to do!
For me, I find that additional intimate connections help me stay more open and engaged than platonic ones. I'm working on creating that with friendships as well, but I find my motivation to be close to people is higher with those I share physical and emotional intimacy with.
That said, my original partner and I have been strongly bonded to each other for the past 15 years. Poly isn't an escape, or filling an emptiness, but rather an added enhancement for each of us. Our additional partners benefit from being close to a happy, stable and treasured connection.
Poly, when you are seeking to fill a shopping list of qualities, isn't terribly functional, in my experience. Be happy with who you are first, then be happy with who you are partnered to, THEN add anyone that seems to enhance and appreciate what you bring to the table.
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