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Originally Posted by seeker5  I'm also curious whether other people have felt the same type of energetic pull that I described. |
Yes if you are aware of your environment, and if you've had women be interested in you before enough, you can tell the signs that a girl is into you. It may not appear she's doing anything but she is giving off subtle cues that you are picking up on, and probably vice versa.
It is said that most communication is non verbal. And that's because we've been around as a species way way longer than we've had words to communicate.
So I think the girl was checking you out and you noticed it.
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Originally Posted by seeker5 Oh? I think I can make a conscious choice not to be attracted to certain people that I've decided are not good for me to be attracted to. Maybe I can be attracted to someone subconsciously, but then with my conscious mind I can override it. |
There's a difference between attraction, and interest. Attraction is physical, good luck turning that off. Interest is how you think you two would get along, if you share similar values. It's easy be attracted to someone you're not "interested in".
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Originally Posted by seeker5 However, I've also initially felt zero attraction toward a woman, and only through getting to know her by beings friends with her through a period of time did I start to feel very attracted to her and then developed an intimate relationship with her. |
It happens. I'm talking about from a woman's perspective. Women that you don't think of "in that way", if they are interested, can be very good at working to earn your affection and interest. It's worked on me a few times, girls I didn't really care about either way, and they end up winning me over. But that wasn't really from being friends. I could already see what they were doing, they just did it consistently enough that it broke through.
But despite what many posters would say, men and women are different. We approach sexual attraction differently. A guy doing what those girls did, is USUALLY considered desperate, which is unattractive. However they may encourage the man to keep doing this, as it feels good to be pursued and desired.
But this is all based on the idea that men and women are different, which isn't a discussion I'm going to get into.
I just felt I would reinforce AG's point about attraction not being a choice. It's a mindset that can work in your favor.