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Originally Posted by AGBourne  Also, remember that attraction is not a choice. |
I hope more people realize this because it saves you the time of over-analyzing. Many women will SAY attraction is not a choice, that they have to a,b,c, before they are sure if they are attracted to you. That with men, attraction is instant, with women, it could take a long time to even develop that basic sexual attraction. This puts them in the power position of course.
When a man adopts this mindset, it puts him in a mindset of having to do a song and dance to get her approval.
So if she really is interested, the guy ruins it because he mistakenly feels he still has to "prove his worth" to her, which makes him... less attractive.
And on the other side, if she really isn't interested, the guy has been led to believe that somehow if he puts on enough of a song and dance, she can become interested. Which makes him less attractive.