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falcan · 03-14-2009, 03:11 AM

This post really resonates with me :-) I think we have one thing in common - and that is what affects yours(and mine too), almost physical block not doing things we don't like(school, work etc.)

Hear this: Your inner voice is too strong!

We all have this inner voice, but I believe some people have it more stronger and louder than others. When we try to do something it doesn't like, your inner voice screams. It's "bad" in the "normal society" as you said, because we can't do things people expect us to do, or we CAN do them, but with really BIG struggle. We curse the inner block or voice, or whatever we call it, it doesn't allow us to live normally, its too much pain, and so on.

Look at it the other way though: long term, it really >helps< you. Imagine, your inner voice was weak and you would get over doing things you don't like pretty well. You would limit yourself to live the average life very easily. Your inner voice knows you want something more, not the "lame approach", as you said. Its like a huge compass that's been given to you that others don't own, or they have it hidden under loads of other stuff. Is it better to see that your ship is going straight towards the cliffs and be stressed out about that(having chance to correct course) or have your compass hidden, while being completely not stressed out? :-) Choose your way.

Even it creates pain for you short term, long term it will be a priceless navigator for your life that hopefully helps you to get to your life purpose. You just have to start listening to it, just take the compass and trust what it shows. If it screams, DONT DO IT. It's really important to trust this. Sure, we all have less pleasant things to do from time to time, but certainly your career or life purpose shouldn't be one of them! Aim at what you wrote you would love to do, really, take it very seriously. Others tell the opposite because most of them don't find the courage to listen to themselves. And you maybe believe them, because so many people really live like that - it looks like its the only way to live. It isn't, of course! The other way is for the few that have the courage, but thats why there is like 1% sucessfull people of all:-)

Anyway, last paragraph(sorry for the long post) - when I look at my life so far. Whenever I ignored myself, whenever I knew I'm doing what I don't really like, I was struggling, emotionally(depressions lasting days, even weeks), financially. The inner voice tortued me. Whenever I moved on, even it was risky, almost instantly I was feeling great about myself, and even financially I moved to a new level. I was struggling recently - for 1.5 year I was trying to find financing for projects in a field I really didn't want to work in. It sounds weird, but I had some initial success and so it was >expected from me< to stay in the field. I thought that I'm not a person like that anymore, but its so easy to fall in this trap of social conditioning, you don't realize that! It took that long for me to realize that I'm in that trap again + almost out of money. Sol I moved on, into something I love doing. Guess what, I was financed in 1 month from moving on! (Of course, I had to be proactive, but my new energy probably helped - and people do recognize if you are aligned with your true goals). So, the money comes in when you listen to yourself, too :-)

03-14-2009, 03:11 AM	#23 (permalink)
falcan Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 80	hey there This post really resonates with me :-) I think we have one thing in common - and that is what affects yours(and mine too), almost physical block not doing things we don't like(school, work etc.) Hear this: Your inner voice is too strong! We all have this inner voice, but I believe some people have it more stronger and louder than others. When we try to do something it doesn't like, your inner voice screams. It's "bad" in the "normal society" as you said, because we can't do things people expect us to do, or we CAN do them, but with really BIG struggle. We curse the inner block or voice, or whatever we call it, it doesn't allow us to live normally, its too much pain, and so on. Look at it the other way though: long term, it really >helps< you. Imagine, your inner voice was weak and you would get over doing things you don't like pretty well. You would limit yourself to live the average life very easily. Your inner voice knows you want something more, not the "lame approach", as you said. Its like a huge compass that's been given to you that others don't own, or they have it hidden under loads of other stuff. Is it better to see that your ship is going straight towards the cliffs and be stressed out about that(having chance to correct course) or have your compass hidden, while being completely not stressed out? :-) Choose your way. Even it creates pain for you short term, long term it will be a priceless navigator for your life that hopefully helps you to get to your life purpose. You just have to start listening to it, just take the compass and trust what it shows. If it screams, DONT DO IT. It's really important to trust this. Sure, we all have less pleasant things to do from time to time, but certainly your career or life purpose shouldn't be one of them! Aim at what you wrote you would love to do, really, take it very seriously. Others tell the opposite because most of them don't find the courage to listen to themselves. And you maybe believe them, because so many people really live like that - it looks like its the only way to live. It isn't, of course! The other way is for the few that have the courage, but thats why there is like 1% sucessfull people of all:-) Anyway, last paragraph(sorry for the long post) - when I look at my life so far. Whenever I ignored myself, whenever I knew I'm doing what I don't really like, I was struggling, emotionally(depressions lasting days, even weeks), financially. The inner voice tortued me. Whenever I moved on, even it was risky, almost instantly I was feeling great about myself, and even financially I moved to a new level. I was struggling recently - for 1.5 year I was trying to find financing for projects in a field I really didn't want to work in. It sounds weird, but I had some initial success and so it was >expected from me< to stay in the field. I thought that I'm not a person like that anymore, but its so easy to fall in this trap of social conditioning, you don't realize that! It took that long for me to realize that I'm in that trap again + almost out of money. Sol I moved on, into something I love doing. Guess what, I was financed in 1 month from moving on! (Of course, I had to be proactive, but my new energy probably helped - and people do recognize if you are aligned with your true goals). So, the money comes in when you listen to yourself, too :-)