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Originally Posted by sagire  Hey everyone! I’m a big fan of these forums but I’ve never got around to posting. Now I’m at the point where I feel it could help me out and I need to.
Basically I’m a massive over thinker and perfectionist. During school I always procrastinate to the last second sometimes to the point where I hand in assignments late or have to do a 10 hour assignment in an hour. I feel it’s because I’m always scared that things won’t be perfect. Some how I’ve still managed to scrape by but I’m sick of not reaching my full potential. Here’s where the real problem begins. A few months ago I managed to start a relationship with an amazing girl. Things are going well but my over thinking has kicked into major overdrive. She is all I think about 24/7 and it’s really getting in the way of my life. I’m sure other people have this problem and I’m hoping someone can help me out. All I do at work is sit and wait for her to talk to me and all the while I think about what I may be doing wrong and how I can’t make everything perfect. I can’t do work, I can’t focus on friends, I’m off in some stupid dream land all day thinking in loops. Please if anyone could help me regain some amount of focus it would be greatly appreciated. |
Hi sagire,
I was caught up in this situation before and it had harmed me big time. I totally became someone whose mood is dictated by the girl. I suggest you to start focusing on the present and keep your phone away from you. I suspect that you will be easily distracted by any ringings of your phone thinking that there is a possibility that it is a call or sms by her. Just keep doing something will be able to keep your mind off that girl. Hope this helps.
Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger