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rawxstasy · 03-13-2009, 05:24 PM

I appreciate what you are doing for your girlfriend.

I think it is hardwired into our brains to. I was overweight for about 10 years. ( I still have a few more pounds to lose) Even when I was overweight, I felt like I had good self esteem and loved who I was in spite of how I looked on the outside. However, the rest of society did not see me that way. I was quite angry about this for awhile. I realized though that I am also attracted to men who are athletic and slim so why should I expect anything else out of other people? However, there is alot of weight discrimination that goes on in this society. When I got down to 145 from 186 the difference in the way (especially men) treated me was amazing. It went from doors slamming in my face ( going into a store) to the guys holding the door open, patiently waiting for me to walk by.

The saddest example, I worked at a supermarket for over a year and shortly after I had lost 40 pounds on three different occasions a coworker (male) would ask, "so how long have you been working here?" me, "a year", them, "a year? how come I never noticed you before?" me "maybe cause I was 40 pounds overweight." True story.

03-13-2009, 05:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
rawxstasy Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Madison, WI Posts: 961	I appreciate what you are doing for your girlfriend. I think it is hardwired into our brains to. I was overweight for about 10 years. ( I still have a few more pounds to lose) Even when I was overweight, I felt like I had good self esteem and loved who I was in spite of how I looked on the outside. However, the rest of society did not see me that way. I was quite angry about this for awhile. I realized though that I am also attracted to men who are athletic and slim so why should I expect anything else out of other people? However, there is alot of weight discrimination that goes on in this society. When I got down to 145 from 186 the difference in the way (especially men) treated me was amazing. It went from doors slamming in my face ( going into a store) to the guys holding the door open, patiently waiting for me to walk by. The saddest example, I worked at a supermarket for over a year and shortly after I had lost 40 pounds on three different occasions a coworker (male) would ask, "so how long have you been working here?" me, "a year", them, "a year? how come I never noticed you before?" me "maybe cause I was 40 pounds overweight." True story.