[Erock]

I think it's really interesting seeing posts about porn and sex from men and women's points of view. As a 17 year old male, let me tell you that, at least from my personal experience, men are addicted to masturbating, not porn. I honestly feel it is because we, as men, have failed to learn how to circulate and control the immense sexual energy we are given. And because we have spent so many years just releasing it day after day, it becomes impossible to sustain. We don't need the pleasure of sex, but the release of all of the energy that comes with ejaculation.

Because most men's systems cannot sustain this energy, women become a tool or an object. That is why men objectify women so much. The better looking a woman is, the faster they can release, and so she is more valuable in a man's mind.

Now, what is the solution to this? I think men need to curb the addiction to ejaculation. If they did, women would not be treated as objects, and men would be much better lovers (last much longer). They wouldn't need to look at porn, or have sex every day or two. They could also use this energy for more productive means. Napoleon Hill talks about this and he calls it Sexual Transmutation, or using sexual energy for things other than sex. David Deida talks about how men need to learn to circulate their sexual energy, and I think this is really true.

Anyway, I can understand why you are offended, but realize that your boyfriend is like 99% of other men, and I guarentee you the reason he looks at porn is not because he doesn't like you, but because he is addicted to the release of energy.