It's not that I am insensitive to you or your plight. So don't take this the wrong way when I say this....
the bully can only hurt you IF you let them.
The passive-aggressive can only manipulate you IF you let them.
You cannot change other people, and this workmate isn't going to be the first person to push your buttons. You can't change her, but you can change how you react to her comments. Instead of blaming her for her bad habits, I think it would be more constructive to talk about ways to cope with difficult people.
For example, if she really is intentionally bullying you, try something new: laugh with her and act like it's funny. When she stops getting any rise out of you, she'll leave you alone.
Learn to shrug things off. Who cares if this one person may not like you? You cannot please everyone. If she has a problem with you, it's HER problem not yours. You're at work to do a job, not win a popularity contest.
She make be less damaging if you can see her through the eyes of pity. Often times bullies are deep-down weak, scared, sad people. It's sad she has to say these things for attention or to make herself feel better. If you're religious, next time she acts petty, pray for her.
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