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Originally Posted by pyrogen  It's not as much about not wanting 2 or 3 or 4 partners as much as... I have so damned much TO DO!! I would be too focused on relationships as a poly person. I don't have the time to spread myself thin maintaining a bunch of relationships. |
Hehe, I totally understand the feeling.... One of my favourite authors wrote, however, that the time you use to love is like the time you use to read a novel or create art: it's never time you have, it's time you steal. If you do fall in love with more than one person, I'm sure you'll find a way to steal enough time from social obligations, sleep, being on time at work or attending sunday lunch at your mother's to love all of them.
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Originally Posted by pyrogen So is poly the new "higher consciousness" relationship dogma?? |
I can't speak for Frank, but I certainly don't think that choosing monogamy is lower consciousness. What I believe is that the higher thing to do is question with your partner(s) the assumptions of your relationship and be open to change them to benefit all of you. It doesn't necessarily mean going poly, but it means considering it, which you definitely have done.