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Originally Posted by ReallyGoodIdeas  Angelwings, Many of us have horrible pasts. The difference is that we have an "aha" moment. You've had one now. You've realised that you have allowed your friends to treat you badly because your family did.
You came here wanted to know how you could pretend to be happy when you weren't. Now you've realised that you deserve genuine happiness. OK you may not have seen much in the past, but the future starts NOW.
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Thank you EVeryone!
I realised there is another deep issue.
The biggest issue is "DEALING WITH MYSELF."
I cant even deal with my own personal life.. how can i deal with others?
Why am i directing all my focus and energy on others.?Why am I blaming people around me for treating this way? I allowed all that to happen! I didnt know It was ME!! I M THE ENEMY.
I WILL do something about myself!
Anyway, when I started writing this thread- It was about DEALING WITH PEOPLE..
This thread started coz i wanted to know how to deal with people and pretend to be happy really..i m not happy but i want people to THINK i m a cheerful person so they ll like me and would like to be my friends etc.
Afterall, No one wants to hang out with someone that looks grumpy and sad looking all the time.
For example:Its like BARBIE Doll. She has a positive outlook.She was made smiling..who knows if She's fighting with Ken and had a bad time.Everyone THINKS HIGHLY of her and is respected.
I thought it is better that people should hide their feelings and be a Fake so no one can harm u coz they dont know u well.
Staying positive lookingis a way to protect yourself eventhough u dont feel positive.
I wanted to know how to be a FAKE!!
So right now i have 1 more issue to analyse:
1st- SHOULD PEOPLE BE FAKE.? ( its a difficult answer coz it's like when i go shopping with my Friends.. she tried on the red dress and i thought it looks awful.Should I Smile and say U look GORGEOUS!!" I failed to do that sometime..and my friend dislike me. People would say:" Dont try to please people, Its not necessary." but there comes a time when u MUST! When i was working in the clothing store for couple of months in the summer..I was trained to sell as much clothes as possible by complementing them as much as possible; that's like FAKING THO.. i feel absolute CRAP coz the lady intended to wear the dress to attend the wedding I couldnt say NO!" It was so hard to wipe those AWFUL look off my face! I was FIRED! I failed to produce THE LOOK! That Angelic look!!
People around me are so FAKE but they get their way. A friend told me:" FAKE IT TIL U MAKE IT". No matter how much i hate/dislike/angry/jealous etc..HIDE IT.
Is it the way to go?
To LOOK NEUTRAL regardless of what im feeling or thinking coz the world is a scary place sometimes... and there's all sort of people..Would it be easier if i put on the BARBIE'S LOOK, It could be a way to protect myself from people. Should i go around FOOLING EVERBODY?
( I hope PPL understand what i mean..its hard to describe. I know i need to work on myself but this issue is about PROTECTING yourself in certain situations)( I know be Peace and harmony with myself cud shield all sorts of attacks TOO but tis is about the way to Behave towards others) ( Should i be bother about people's feeling at all? ) ( SHOULD I BE BOTHER BY ANYBODY?)
SoRRy, I m quite confused myself as i m writing this. Someone analysed this. PLease!