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Originally Posted by Eric Roosevelt  Do you only have problems with first impressions, or do you have problems with relationships in general? You mention that you're fine talking on line to people. This suggests that it's probably, as ilrein metioned, a voice or body language issue. Confidence is the key in both those areas, but only confidence to a degree where you can "back it up". Just be yourself, in other words. Act natural and get in the flow.
Also consider the fact that maybe people aren't judging you as harshly as you think. How much of what you're saying is an accurate picture of what people think about you, and how much is just you over-analyzing the situation? |
No when people get to know me we usually get along great. I think the problem is, around people I don't know very well, I'm like scared to death. A lot of times I just avoid talking because I don't even want to hear myself. I guess, my confidence, 0. Maybe that's my biggest problem. Maybe I do over-analyze sometimes too. Is it really possible that negative people usually don't like most people? Maybe I'm just letting a few bad experiences with super negative people ruin how I view all first impressions. But I don't know which one of these is the problem for sure! *sigh*
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Maybe I'll list what I think my main problems are from that paragraph in case I lose someone lol
- I'm scared to death when I have to talk to someone
- I don't like hearing myself talk
- Low confidence in social situations
- Possibly over analyze
- Bad past experiences