Join Date: Dec 2006
Dan, I think it's great to have a burning desire for something, as long as you go for it in a positive way, and it's more beneficial to you and others, and wouldn't hurt you or others. Like, I have a burning desire for chocolate cake, but too often, and in too large quantities, it wouldn't be good for my health or for my kids, in that I'm their role model. I also have a conflicting burning desire, to be thin, which can't happen if I focus too much on eating chocolate cake. lol, you know what I mean? A burning desire will motivate you, but like Steve has said in prior blogs, you have to choose, not want, and intend for it. It's wording, and wording helps you psychologically. It's ok to have preferences, just work with what you have. If you have the talent and motivation, work with them, and then notice the synchronicities coming your way. Notice that what you wanted is coming to you. Don't dwell on how fast you're not getting it, or what form it's coming in. That's focusing on thinking you don't have what you desire. Instead, focus on knowing it's coming, and already is in bits and pieces. And use Steve's suggestions for keeping it coming. It's all attitude. JM2C.
Steve, I have to add about giving to charities, that I throw whatever I can to them whenever I have extra. To me, right now, I nickel and dime things, because I see them in material terms. I mean, when I use coupons at the supermarket, or look for specials, etc, I can save $30 on occasion, and that adds up at the end of the year. That goes towards other things like dinner out for us, or museum admission for us, or towards another bill, etc. I always see money as going towards one thing or another. I can't see paying $200 on shoes, when I can get them for $20 (unless I can wear better quality ones for 10x as long.) But I won't drive to 10 different supermarkets to save a dime, and I won't go to a far gas station to save 40 cents. That to me is a waste of time. My mom scrimped all her life, and stretched my dad's check and they never seemed unhappy. Money was there when they needed it. And now, years later, when we kids ask them for something, they are generous. That's how I was taught. I am caught up in that now. I can't work full time until my youngest goes to school full time. My husband's check is the only stable finance we have. It has to be stretched. I cannot commit to $1k charity donation. I think women are caught up in this economy. When you talk about what we can do to become millionaires, I always think it refers to men. But I look how Erin is managing, and I look at your blogs, and it motivates me. I'm trying my best to get some work from multiple sources, things I can do at home, or when I can get babysitting.
How about either of you writing some blogs for stay at home moms?