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Originally Posted by Majesticzero  The current situation
Girls
When a girl looks at me I always look away after one or two seconds. This is the first thing I need to change. Step one is to look at girls and say "Hi". If I can do this easily it's time for step two. This is walking up to a girl and start a conversation. Maybe when already next to each other or when a girl walks by. Instead of just saying "Hi", I can say "Hi, how are you?". We can have a short talk, maybe about sports as a start. If it's a conversation that takes a little longer I should also introduce myself to her.
If someone has any tips or comments on this. I would like to hear them. |
If it makes you feel any better, I have the exact same problem with girls. But might have some ideas that might work for you, and hopefully me as well.
Are you interested in music? that might be a better conversation than sports.. I found it a pretty good talking point conversation in the weekend.. Maybe if the problem is that you need to talk to a girl about sports, that you need more interests?
I love sports myself! and think they're great, but maybe you could take up, say, 2 more hobbies? and/or interests? to give you more stuff to talk about? Be good at talking about music? maybe? or the latest movies that are out?
and another thing, you get nervous around girls, but not dudes right? Why is this? I have the same problem, and from having this problem I think it's because we think that girls are assessing us as "this guy is cool" or "this guy is a loser" but if you talk to a dude and he says to you "man, you're a loser" you won't really care right? because you'll just think he is a loser?
So I think it is the fear of rejection thing, and maybe you just have to have the perspective that girls are just humans too, they're not goddesses who know everything and assess you at will.