I enjoy a good bit of banter with friends and yes we do all tease each other and sometimes push to the limits of what is acceptable. Some of the things my H and I say in jest to each other could be very hurtful in another context.
However I wouldn't tease someone who didn't enjoy it and find it funny. I certainly wouldn't say they have a victim mentality if they were hurt by it.
You say you usually get along with them so I'm assuming you want to keep their friendship. I think probably a straight talk with them saying that you love having a laugh with them, but don't like it when you are the punch-line of their jokes. Ask them if they would be willing to brainstorm with you how you can all come to a creative solution so that everyone has a good time when you are together.
If they play ball and are willing to respect your feelings then fantastic. If they blame you for being too sensitive and aren't willing to find a solution that is right for you all, then you have your answer, even if you don't like it.
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