I have a close male friend who cheated on his wife with a spirit guide. It caused him a lot of pain. He left his wife because of her and the more time he spent with her, the more he wanted to be with her. When I met him, he was distraught, suicidal and plagued by guilt. Our values are the same in all realms.
I didn't know what was going with him at first until his spirit lady appeared one evening during dinner. The love and sexuality was potently tangiable. He asked her leave some time later because he has a daughter and wanted to be able to have a fully physical relationship again with someone. He wanted to be here too.