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Majesticzero · 03-10-2009, 10:59 AM

The current situation

The past weeks I've been working on developing my social skills. I've been talking a lot to people. People I didn't knew before and people I already knew. Even new people came and talk to me (that was weird, that never happened before...). It is becoming easier and easier for me to talk to strangers. This is really good.

The first problem with this is that these people are all guys. Except for one girl that I already knew. The second and last problem is that I talk to those people at my sportscenter and that the topic is always sports/health related.

My two goals are:
- To talk about other things than sports/health
- To talk to girls

Other subjects

I find talking about other subjects very hard. I know a lot about sports and health so it's easy to talk about that. But in order to get more dept into conversations I need to talk about other things too. Maybe things as work and if they have other hobbies are a good start. After that I need to start conversations in different surroundings, not only at the sportscenter. I also need to introduce myself more. I have a conversation with people, but most of the time I don't introduce myself, I think it would be good to do this in the first conversation. If I already had a first conversation I can introduce myself in the next conversation I have with them.

Girls

When a girl looks at me I always look away after one or two seconds. This is the first thing I need to change. Step one is to look at girls and say "Hi". If I can do this easily it's time for step two. This is walking up to a girl and start a conversation. Maybe when already next to each other or when a girl walks by. Instead of just saying "Hi", I can say "Hi, how are you?". We can have a short talk, maybe about sports as a start. If it's a conversation that takes a little longer I should also introduce myself to her.

If someone has any tips or comments on this. I would like to hear them.

03-10-2009, 10:59 AM	#6 (permalink)
Majesticzero Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 276	The current situation The past weeks I've been working on developing my social skills. I've been talking a lot to people. People I didn't knew before and people I already knew. Even new people came and talk to me (that was weird, that never happened before...). It is becoming easier and easier for me to talk to strangers. This is really good. The first problem with this is that these people are all guys. Except for one girl that I already knew. The second and last problem is that I talk to those people at my sportscenter and that the topic is always sports/health related. My two goals are: - To talk about other things than sports/health - To talk to girls Other subjects I find talking about other subjects very hard. I know a lot about sports and health so it's easy to talk about that. But in order to get more dept into conversations I need to talk about other things too. Maybe things as work and if they have other hobbies are a good start. After that I need to start conversations in different surroundings, not only at the sportscenter. I also need to introduce myself more. I have a conversation with people, but most of the time I don't introduce myself, I think it would be good to do this in the first conversation. If I already had a first conversation I can introduce myself in the next conversation I have with them. Girls When a girl looks at me I always look away after one or two seconds. This is the first thing I need to change. Step one is to look at girls and say "Hi". If I can do this easily it's time for step two. This is walking up to a girl and start a conversation. Maybe when already next to each other or when a girl walks by. Instead of just saying "Hi", I can say "Hi, how are you?". We can have a short talk, maybe about sports as a start. If it's a conversation that takes a little longer I should also introduce myself to her. If someone has any tips or comments on this. I would like to hear them.