I was in a 4 yr relationship with a younger man a few yrs back. He introduced himself to me after I’d lectured at a psychic gathering and was intelligent, curious about everything, having psychic experiences of his own and seeking proof. We were friends for 6 mths before becoming lovers. He’d call in with fresh fish, cook meals, borrow my books and challenge everything I did and knew with regards to the spiritual. He was refreshingly honest and genuinely seeking understanding. He matched me.
We enjoyed simple outdoor things together, like walking in the bush, fishing in his 10ft alloy dinghy, fish’n’chips on the beach, swimming & walking at night under the stars. We shared thoughts, desires, ideas, dreams. Because of the age difference (he ultimately wanted to get married and have kids. I’d been there, done that) there was no future planning together and no expectations. He had just come out of a 5 yr relationship and I had ended an 8 yr one. Neither of us was in hurry to commit again. We lived in the ‘now’. It is the most honest relationship I’ve had because of that.
During the course of our relationship the energy between us grew and almost took on a life of its own. He’s the only person I’ve met who has walked in my world. We voyaged into the outer realms together and had some amazing experiences. We never lived together and he lived some distance away. When we were apart we conversed easily and were able to relay images to each other. I’d wake up in the morning a he’d be stroking my face or I’d feel his body slide into bed next to mine even though he physically wasn’t there. It became second nature. Even now, 5 yrs after the relationship has ended, I won’t hear from him for months or a yr and he’ll suddenly be chatting in my ear. Now I tell him to pick up the phone. He’ll ring me laughing. Since we have both moved on in our lives we’ve had to set boundaries. We both agreed that as good as it was, to continue, would be cheating. Trust and respect for each other plays a huge role in first being able to have the experiences and then being able to set boundaries.