[The Coronet]

Originally Posted by MartialDev

Supposing these folks succeed because their abundant social savvy compensates for a lack of trustworthiness--however you choose to define those terms--why is it "unfair" for them to succeed where you have failed?

Its unfair because they are lying and manipulating people, theres no love for others in what they do. On the other hand I suppose they must be very insecure deep down to have to be so despearate to get what they want that they would hurt another. I guess I just dont need things that much, Id rather not get success and screw people over if thats what id have to do..(not saying it is!)

Originally Posted by RT Wolf

Yea, that's the just world hypothesis: the wicked are punished and the good are rewarded. If you grew up in any of the big three religions you'll have a strong sense of fairness and wrongness, especially since all th stories in it suggest that the universe lives accoridng to that sort of rule, and it doesn't.

i did maybe that explains it

Originally Posted by Revolution

Yep, as MartialDev pointed out peoples true natures can be complicated. There are no evil people - just people of different levels of awareness.

Try not to be jealous of anyone - true success is more than a high pay packet!

Deception and putting down others is one way of climbing the ranks but not the only way.

true. I hope there are no evil people, this worries me sometimes im not so sure

Originally Posted by timothydrake

Reading this just frustrates me. YOU are too soft!!!! Not only did you fail to tell your "friends" anything you even apologized for writing your problem down on this forum!! Why are you apologizing!!! Your fear of anyone thinking that you have even the slightest hint "badness" controls your every motive!

It is totally ok to have negative emotions. YOU CANNOT PLEASE EVERYONE NOR DO THEY DESERVE YOUR EFFORT! I am sounding angry because I am seeing what you wrote as emotional cowardice. Don't give other people that kind of power over you.

You are so right in many ways. Im not sure if i have a fear that people may think i have a hint of badness, but i do have a fear that I think i have some badness, hmm maybe i do fear people thinking this, i will think about that one. I am a coward in this respect, i didnt even tell them to f@£K of and I continue to be nice to them. Maybe what causes me this awful feeling is my own anger at not standing up for myself! Now when i associate with them it is me that is being fake, what a nightmare!

Originally Posted by magi13

The work place is like a battle field, prepare yourself, equip oneself with the "art of war."

sadly it would seem so!