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mindfulconstruct · 03-10-2009, 05:11 AM

I don't have "heroes," and I try not to pedestal people I admire.

Because as time goes on and I get to know them better, I start to see their limitations and parts of them that are not in alignment with my own truth. And this can lead to resentment, or crushed (false) hopes of steady guidance from them.

So the way I go about it is to clearly define what it is that I look to others for as a role model.

One person might model perseverance to me, where as I don't necessarily respect how they handle their relationships. Another person person might model business success, but I wouldn't look to them for advice on personal development.

To me, this is more realistic, and it allows me to connect with them more honestly. And it allows me to experience more gratitude for their role modeling.

03-10-2009, 05:11 AM	#3 (permalink)
mindfulconstruct Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 20	I don't have "heroes," and I try not to pedestal people I admire. Because as time goes on and I get to know them better, I start to see their limitations and parts of them that are not in alignment with my own truth. And this can lead to resentment, or crushed (false) hopes of steady guidance from them. So the way I go about it is to clearly define what it is that I look to others for as a role model. One person might model perseverance to me, where as I don't necessarily respect how they handle their relationships. Another person person might model business success, but I wouldn't look to them for advice on personal development. To me, this is more realistic, and it allows me to connect with them more honestly. And it allows me to experience more gratitude for their role modeling.