Join a group. Take a class. Get a part-time job, even one evening a week.
Or accept that even though your current friends drink, you don't have to. Ask one/some of them to do something that isn't primarily focussed around drinking (a movie, go to the beach). If they want to have a beer at the beach or at the movie, let them, and don't feel like you have to.
The one thing that has worked for me in meeting new people better than anything else was to get a small, friendly dog of an unusual breed. I didn't buy him to meet people, so this was an unintended effect, but I have genuinely never, EVER left the house with my dog without at least one new person saying hello or approaching me to start a conversation about my dog. Total strangers of both sexes have given me their number (unasked) in case I ever want to go dog-walking with them, or need a dog-sitter. To be fair, I'm an attractive female, so that probably contributes, but all sorts of people talk to me, not just guys of my demographic.
But get a dog and sit outside a coffee shop with it, or take it walking at a dog park/beach and you'll probably have more friends than you know what to do with in a fortnight. Dogs are a brilliant ice-breaker.
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