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Foggy · 03-09-2009, 07:26 AM

A while ago I posted a thread about breaking up with my girlfriend. As an update, we ended up getting back together. It was a difficult choice, and not necessarily one that I feel 100% confident about, but now we're dealing with something that I've never really dealt with in this relationship. It's incredibly difficult for us to connect. Our conversations feel half-hearted, neither of us is really as interested in the other person as we used to be and I feel like there are very few threads holding us together. The truth is, I've experienced this before in relationships, but all of them were very short relationships that never really made it off the ground. I know that there is still a connection between us, because sometimes when we talk we have amazing conversations, but more often than not it feels like we're not really connecting at all. In some ways I am blaming myself for this because I wonder if it's because I'm not interesting enough in some way. In other ways I'm discouraged because I wonder if all my relationships are going to eventually end up in this place. Finally, I'm curious for insight and advice about growing closer together again.

03-09-2009, 07:26 AM	#1 (permalink)
Foggy Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Maine Posts: 254	Feeling distant from a partner... A while ago I posted a thread about breaking up with my girlfriend. As an update, we ended up getting back together. It was a difficult choice, and not necessarily one that I feel 100% confident about, but now we're dealing with something that I've never really dealt with in this relationship. It's incredibly difficult for us to connect. Our conversations feel half-hearted, neither of us is really as interested in the other person as we used to be and I feel like there are very few threads holding us together. The truth is, I've experienced this before in relationships, but all of them were very short relationships that never really made it off the ground. I know that there is still a connection between us, because sometimes when we talk we have amazing conversations, but more often than not it feels like we're not really connecting at all. In some ways I am blaming myself for this because I wonder if it's because I'm not interesting enough in some way. In other ways I'm discouraged because I wonder if all my relationships are going to eventually end up in this place. Finally, I'm curious for insight and advice about growing closer together again.