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Originally Posted by dirtyhive  First off, hi everyone, I'm new. 
Jumping straight into discussion: I think it has a lot to do with how you percieve your 'watcher'. If I'm being watched by my boss and I think she's being critical, I tend to get nervous and screw up. But if a friend is watching me do something and I feel that they admire me for my skill, I tend to be even better at it. I guess the trick is to imagine that everyone who watches you is a big fan and admires your work. Then you can get that sense of effortless efficiency. |
Good point. At the gym I feel pretty confident so the watching is mostly on the plus side. But it wasn't always that way. I definitely had to work up to it. (The trick is to remember that most people at the gym are looking at themselves!)
OTOH, when I was growing up, my mother, love her dearly, always had to know what I was doing...I couldn't just hang out in the house, basically doing nothing, without her checking up on me. Although I understand it a little better now - I have kids of my own - I just couldn't relax. Watching that causes you not to be able to relax can drive you nutty!
Does anybody here ever have the feeling that someone is watching them and then you turn and find someone is?? Or you turn your head involuntarily, or so it seems, and catch someone looking at you? I find that so weird. How does that happen?