[Guy665]

Hi there,
I really need some help and advise, so please bear with me.
I got into a relationship with a girl at the beginning of last year. She is 37 and I am 28. We fell in love very quickly and had a amazing time at the beginning. However she has 3 children from a previous marriage and I have none.

As the relationship progressed it became clear that she was incredibly insecure and she became very jealous, so much so that wouldn’t let me see my friends would never let me talk to girls etc. I also found it very difficult dealing with her 3 kids.

Anyway eventually I had enough of the jealousy and insecurity and finished with her at Christmas.

The problem is that we have started going back out with each other and I am really not sure I want to be with her. However I do love her so much so I deeply confused.

I am so scared of finishing it with her again because she was so upset and I scarred of hurting her and upsetting her again. However this can’t be a reason to stay with her can it?

My friends and family say I should end it again, I just feel totally stuck. Its almost like i don’t have the courage to finish with her because i know how upset she’ll be. Also I really love her.

However despite the love, I can’t see a future and really deep down know it’s not right being with her.

What should I do?

Do I finish with her and break her heart again. I am so scarred do this because her ex-husband did it before, I did it at Christmas and now i’d be doing it again.

Do I carry on with her and myself not be totally happy but at least i’ll spare her feelings.

Hope this makes sense.

It’s really upsetting me. Any comments would be appreciated.