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ns123 · 03-06-2009, 11:08 PM

RRR,

I don't agree with what you said at all, though there is some truth in it, I don't find it resonates with my own experience.

As for team sports, I am sorry that you experienced it that way. I definitely see children working in teams all around me, organizing their play, forming "teams" but not playing organized sports. I have also seen children in organized sports that play as a team, with a coach who is both gentle, encouraging, and dedicated. These children also socialize with the members of their organized sport (soccer) by going to school together, being in boy scouts together, being in day camp together, etc. Maybe what your parents did for you was not the right fit for your personality. I don't think that means that there are no teams.

As for church and your neighborhood I also do not find this to be true in my own personal experience. I believe that you feel as connected to other as much a you choose to commit to doing so. I lived on my street for 7 years before I connected with my neighbors - and that only happened because I finally chose to make an effort to.

I also don't agree with you in government and the work place. Managers - really good ones - value the opinion and input of the people "in the trenches" and often times rely on their perspective to make decisions. The ultimate decision is on the manager, but a great manager is an includer who makes his people feel like they matter. That's how you retain good people.

I am sorry you feel disconnected as if you don't belong to a team - or never experienced seeing people working together in the true sense of connectedness. My own direct experience is much different.

The quality of our experience with others all lie within ourselves, and our own choice and commitment to making it happen. People will feel connected to you if you commit to connecting with others. People will feel like they want to be included on your team to work with you, to include your feelings and opinions, if you also work to create what you are seeking for other people too.

I hope that helps. I'm not saying what you are saying is wrong. What I'm saying that it is possible to have a more positive and inspiring experience in life if you so choose to - and commit to making it happen.

03-06-2009, 11:08 PM	#4 (permalink)
ns123 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 658	RRR, I don't agree with what you said at all, though there is some truth in it, I don't find it resonates with my own experience. As for team sports, I am sorry that you experienced it that way. I definitely see children working in teams all around me, organizing their play, forming "teams" but not playing organized sports. I have also seen children in organized sports that play as a team, with a coach who is both gentle, encouraging, and dedicated. These children also socialize with the members of their organized sport (soccer) by going to school together, being in boy scouts together, being in day camp together, etc. Maybe what your parents did for you was not the right fit for your personality. I don't think that means that there are no teams. As for church and your neighborhood I also do not find this to be true in my own personal experience. I believe that you feel as connected to other as much a you choose to commit to doing so. I lived on my street for 7 years before I connected with my neighbors - and that only happened because I finally chose to make an effort to. I also don't agree with you in government and the work place. Managers - really good ones - value the opinion and input of the people "in the trenches" and often times rely on their perspective to make decisions. The ultimate decision is on the manager, but a great manager is an includer who makes his people feel like they matter. That's how you retain good people. I am sorry you feel disconnected as if you don't belong to a team - or never experienced seeing people working together in the true sense of connectedness. My own direct experience is much different. The quality of our experience with others all lie within ourselves, and our own choice and commitment to making it happen. People will feel connected to you if you commit to connecting with others. People will feel like they want to be included on your team to work with you, to include your feelings and opinions, if you also work to create what you are seeking for other people too. I hope that helps. I'm not saying what you are saying is wrong. What I'm saying that it is *possible* to have a more positive and inspiring experience in life if you so choose to - and commit to making it happen.