[lisamelinda]

Do you have to want to let go of a relationship to be able to let go? I can't believe i am finally posting about this, but i have had this on and off thing with my ex now for months - very convenient for him, probably not so healthy for me. He said that if he would want to be in a relationship, it would be with me. I just take that in and filter out the rest, like the fact that he never replies if i say i love him, and the fact that he is definitely out and about and wouldn't hesitate to be with someone else. Never comes to visit me, etc. It's like there are two parts of me, one part that wants to cut it off, another part refuses to let go, as if letting go would mean it's all lost and a failure and wasn't important. But do i have to want to let go to let go - or just force myself to let go? I'm a very loyal, caring person, and i fight for what i want. This can be to my detriment.