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Originally Posted by rawxstasy  I've noticed that when I am attracted to a guy and I see that he is attracted to me, I start to avoid the person instead of giving them a chance to get to know me better. I think because when I am attracted to these guys I feel anxious, racing heart and nervousness. So in order to avoid feeling anxious I just avoid the guy. How do I overcome this? |
Are you sure it's the anxiety that you are avoiding?
I see a common pattern that's similar to yours. Check and see if you agree with it:
You stay away from the guy because he seems to be attracted to you and you are to him, so you want him to be attracted. You are scare of blowing it by a failed approach, so you don't approach at all to preserve the status quo. You are so scared that you'll lose his attraction that you prefer to stay where you are in the relationship, while now, even if he barely knows you, he's attracted to you.
Sounds familiar?
If not, (or if yes, too) I recommend an NLP pattern for any kind of anxiety. Nothing knocks them off like NLP.
Ralph