I spent about 17 years in a fundamentalist Christian cult (Jehovah's Witnesses) and realized recently that my self-extrication from the cult seemed to be related to the long, messy-but-dignified death of my father from a stroke. And later, I realized that my initial attraction to Christianity was probably related to witnessing the death of a friend while still in Junior High. So death and religion have a relationship, a fact that's exploited by many religions. My thoughts on the matter are written up in an essay here:
Death & Religion
I try to point out that religion is not necessarily the best response to a loved one's death.
Please take a look and tell me what you think. I look forward to your thoughts on the matter.
cheers,
Angus